~ Secercah Kasih Yang Terpendam ~

My second child Rumaysa who’s 5 yo is an expressive and outspoken child! She also knows how to persuade anyone to come to terms with her choice and her commands in exception of her little brother hence she often feels frustrated to deal with him as he won’t back down to her demand. Sometime Rumaysa can pull a funny statements or expression to make her point heard.  Just like yesterday as we went out to have family lunch together and I know it was rather late but when we arrived at the destination the restaurant was closed! So we headed back to different restaurant which was on the way home so I could imagine how hungry and tired she was especially after swimming lession she had prior to this journey. So out of the blue she just said to us: “Oh Mama, Baba... I am super hungry (I don’t know why she likes using the word “super” in many sentences)... I just need something to SWALLOW right now”  We all laughed out loud hearing her desperation!  But boy!!! Eventually she did s...

A must read.. One friend asked another friend  "What did your husband gift you to celebrate your child's birth?" The friend replied that he did not give her anything. The first friend was surprised and questioned her friend as to whether this was a good thing. She asked her friend "Does he not value you at all?" After sowing the seed of such poisonous thoughts the first friend left, leaving her friend worried and doubtful.   After sometime the husband comes home for Dhur prayer and sees his wife's sullen face.  While enquiring about it both start fighting which leads to them cursing at each other which leads to physical fight and eventually a divorce.  Do you know the root of this problem? It was one unnecessary dialogue with a friend who had come to ask about her friends health.  Similarly Zaid asked Hamed; Z- "Where do you work?" H- "In some store" Z- "What is your monthly income?" H- "18,000 Rupees" Z- "Just 18...

By: Sister Sanaa Oh wives of the Daa’ies (those who work day and night calling to Islaam) and Mujaahideen, fear Allaah and be firm and patient. Verily you are the cause of the success of your husband’s struggle and the cause of its decline. There is a saying that behind every great man is a great woman. Many people differ about this parable, between those in support of it and those who appose it. We all must agree about the importance of the wife in the life of her husband and the fact she has a role that if fulfilled, the boat of da’wah will sail peacefully and successfully. For this reason we find the Messenger Muhammad (saw) emphasised on the importance of the woman in more than just one place. He encouraged the Muslim man about the necessity to look for a wife with good Deen (practicing woman), who fears Allaah in her relationship with her husband, at his home and with his children. We believe nobody will differ with us if we say that the Daa’ies are so needy for a unique, sophisti...

This morning as I poured milk on her cereal I said to Nusaybah  “Last night I made a cup of tea and it got cold because I had to put your cranky brother to sleep, by the time it’s done, I went down and the tea has been drank by your Baba. I don’t mind because it’s better then wasting it, and now I was about to sip my tea, all my children need me to serve them their breakfast, again the tea gets cold” She replied calmly: “but Mama.... you got the rewards for looking after us” I stopped and paused and I suddenly felt sense of happy and contentment.  I said to her:”you’re absolutely right! جزاك الله خيراً كثيراً for reminding me”  ....I know this is the story of every mother with young children but my point is not about the “hard reality” 😄 of your tea gets cold and no matter how many times you warm it, it keeps getting cold again because you just don’t have a chance to sit and enjoy your cup of tea unless all the entourage are sleeping and whenever that happen I need the s...

Bagi yang sering baca postinganku di FB, pasti udah tahu kalau Nusaybah suka banget sama yang namanya art and craft. Kadang dia nonton Mr maker di YouTube sebentar dan beberapa menit kemudian menunjukkan hasil karyanya. Inilah salah satu hasilnya ماشاء الله  Menurut Nusaybah ini adalah “picture of a city with tall buildings”

On one afternoon my Rumaysa 5 years old was curious about the topic of marriage (God knows why!) Rumaysa:” mama, why do you marry baba?” While preparing dinner I answered casually:”because he’s a good man, very responsible and most importantly he is a good Muslim ماشاء الله “ And I forgot to mention the important part that he’s not my relative 😃 Rumaysa:”oh.... so can I marry Hudayfah when I grow up?” Me:”no you can’t, because he’s your brother” R:”so who can I marry then?” Me:”anyone else that is not blood related to you, someone you might never meet before, a stranger” R:”a strangeeeeeeer??!!” (I wrote that way because she was really shocked lol) But mama you told us not to even talk to a stranger how can I marry a stranger then??? *facepalm* LESSON: 1. It’s so obvious I wasn’t prepared with the answer of such question! but it’s okay because parenting is also a learning process for everyone. 2. Choose the right words and expression to explain a “grown up” su...

One evening as I was busy attending my cranky Hudayfah, my eldest said: "Mama, I think I am going to skip being a parent, I will be straight to become a grandparent! " I was holding myself not to laugh and ask:"why do you want to skip?" Nusaybah:"because I can see how hard looking after baby and children is.."  I think she saw me that evening trying to catch up my breath and constantly on my toes due to her brother. I then said: "to be a grandparent, you first have to have a child or children, and those children get married and then they will have children then you can become grandparent, so if one day you got married and have children then me and baba will be grandparents." "Oh... but I just want to be a grandparent without being a parent." LESSON LEARNED! As hard as it could possibly be...just pretend to always be in control and in your coolest mode in front of your kids! Because you are building an image and setting example of how mo...