This morning as I poured milk on her cereal I said to Nusaybah
“Last night I made a cup of tea and it got cold because I had to put your cranky brother to sleep, by the time it’s done, I went down and the tea has been drank by your Baba. I don’t mind because it’s better then wasting it, and now I was about to sip my tea, all my children need me to serve them their breakfast, again the tea gets cold”
She replied calmly: “but Mama.... you got the rewards for looking after us”
I stopped and paused and I suddenly felt sense of happy and contentment.
I said to her:”you’re absolutely right! جزاك الله خيراً كثيراً for reminding me”
....I know this is the story of every mother with young children but my point is not about the “hard reality” 😄 of your tea gets cold and no matter how many times you warm it, it keeps getting cold again because you just don’t have a chance to sit and enjoy your cup of tea unless all the entourage are sleeping and whenever that happen I need the sleep myself.
What strucked me was her answer and this answer wasn’t new concept for me but the way she said it was very sincere and my soul was in need of this basic reminder!
When you become a parent, the focus is no longer yourself. everything revolves around your children and their needs (physically mentally, psychologically and spiritually) and because day in day out you constantly has to give and often “sacrifice” your own needs, you might start losing focus on the real reason why we do what we do in the first place.
But if we focus on the real price I guess things will fall into perspective and nothing bigger than the purpose of life itself.
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