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One evening as I was busy attending my cranky Hudayfah, my eldest said: "Mama, I think I am going to skip being a parent, I will be straight to become a grandparent! " I was holding myself not to laugh and ask:"why do you want to skip?" Nusaybah:"because I can see how hard looking after baby and children is.."  I think she saw me that evening trying to catch up my breath and constantly on my toes due to her brother. I then said: "to be a grandparent, you first have to have a child or children, and those children get married and then they will have children then you can become grandparent, so if one day you got married and have children then me and baba will be grandparents." "Oh... but I just want to be a grandparent without being a parent." LESSON LEARNED! As hard as it could possibly be...just pretend to always be in control and in your coolest mode in front of your kids! Because you are building an image and setting example of how mo...

Monday morning 24th April 2017 at 8:30am ---- Rumaysa started it with a very random statement. "Mama, when you die, I will walk to wiam's house (my next door neighbour) by myself!" In my shock (because it's just bizzare topic to be brought up in the early Monday morning plus we haven't discussed anything related to death whatsoever) So I asked:"why?" (TBH I don't know what else shall I say) She said:" because you won't be there anymore" (I said to myself: yes, it makes sense but why this discussion?? And why now???) Then I prompted another question:"But why would you go to wiam's house?" She said: "So that I can play with her." Bless her, She just want to play!  I then asked: "But who's going to look after you when I die? She said:"Wiam's Mom!" I replied "But she's not your mom, she's wiam's Mom" And then she was quiet for a while and change the topic and said:"I ...

It's been a memorable 13 years and I pray there will be plenty more years to come! Amin Navigating through marriage life indeed teaches me so many things. You discover your qualities and skills you never knew it was existing, you learn to take and give, you learn to tolerate, accept the differences, encourage one another to do good, overlook the shortcomings, learn to forgive, learn to find the best time to speak, learn to speak with wisdom, learn to understand each other's point of view. I always believe that Allah ﷻ grants us a spouse to complete us and learn from one another and meet somewhere in the middle. I often find spouse possess opposite character. Extrovert and introvert, ahead planner and last minute one, outgoing and indoor person.  My philosophy is: being married is like being a pair of slipper. If your spouse is the right slipper then be the left one (of course this doesn't imply any negative connotation) - what I mean is: complement each other and never expe...