Once upon a time....
I told Rumaysa to stop
Playing with the tap and water in the bathroom (she loves playing with the water) and she kept saying "noo mama.. Nooooo..." (Imagine drama scene)
Using a slightly elevated tone of voice, I told Rumaysa: "if you don't stop and don't listen to mama, I will send you to the thinking corner for 2 minutes!!!".
Well.... Theoritically (lol) I shouldn't address the issue using an elevated tone. I should have calm, cool, collected. Yeah!! One of those days.
And then came Nusaybah reminding and addressing me (using teacher type of tone- calm and low pitch)
"Mama, it's not nice to speak like that to your own child... You should not shout, you should speak nicely, Allah wont be happy with you... So now say sorry to Rumaysa.."
Mak nyessssss!!!! (Apa ya
It changed my mood instantly! I was so happy with the way she "handled" me and the situation. I smile at Nusaybah and follow her order... Apologising to Rumaysa.
This was not the first time and Some other time I would argue and told Nusaybah that Rumaysa was the one who should listen to me for I am her mom but I realised the more I do that, the more I give example to Nusaybah that it's okay to talk back..
Sometimes, swallowing our own pride and anger is way more dignified then continue to argue and debate even to our little ones.
It's a big amaanah having children and we might think that we are the one who teach them but often they are the one who push us to learn and be more mature.