Sunday, 15 November 2015

Touches

I saw the letter Nusaybah wrote for her best friend at school. 

Her name is Aleena. I can sense the love she's having towards her. One day she told me that teacher asked her to present her journal and explain what she has written during reception year.

Aleena was the only friend who gave her encouragement by giving two thumbs up and wide smile while she stood in front of everyone.

After she narrated that story, she broke down to tears. She told me that it was a happy tears for she's having such a wonderful friends. 

I cried and touched with her reaction. At the end we hugged each other tightly And cried together!

I can imagine how special for Nusaybah to have a friend who always see goodness in her. 
Aleena was one of them or perhaps the only one in her classroom. 

O Allah ﷻ protects our children from any bad influence and make them strong in the Deen and see the best from others around them. 
اللهمّ امين يا ربّ العالمين

Wednesday, 4 November 2015

Knowledge

Knowledge is light and the light of Allah ﷻ is not bestowed upon a sinner.

Yes everyone will commit sins in one thing or the other because that's the made up of human being but the sinner it's referring here is the one who knows that s/he is committing sins and proud of it, spreads it, don't ask forgiveness of Allah ﷻ from it and continues doing it after reminder from those around her/him.

Indeed the one who wants and has been trying to understand the Deen are the fortunate one!

Mu’awiya reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, 

“If Allah intends goodness for someone, He gives him understanding of the religion.”

Source: Sahih Bukhari 71, Sahih Muslim 1037

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

عَنْ مُعَاوِيَةَ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه و سلم مَنْ يُرِدْ اللَّهُ بِهِ خَيْرًا يُفَقِّهْهُ فِي الدِّينِ

71 صحيح البخاري كتاب العلم باب من يرد الله به خيرا يفقهه في الدين

1037 صحيح مسلم كتاب الزكاة باب النهي عن المسألة

Sunday, 1 November 2015

{percakapan} Allah ﷻ and Google

As I was vacuuming the floor, Nusaybah was enjoying to look at the map and she's trying to impress me by showing me how she knew where Indonesia and Ethiopia is and then she said:

"Mama.. I know what's the largest country in the world!"

I said:" what is it?"

Nusaybah:" it's Russia!"

"Well done, Sayang" I said

Then she asked again:" how many people is in Russia, Mama?"

"Oh... I am not sure Nusaybah.. It must be millions"

Nusaybah:"I know who knows! It's only Allah ﷻ and GOOGLE Know how many people in Russia is! Isn't it mama?"

I laughed and laughed and laughed and said:

"Yes! You're Absolutely right! But Google is only search engine made by human being"

Nusaybah: "...and human being doesn't know everything....only Allah ﷻ knows everything!"

Me:"exactly, so Google wouldn't know everything but perhaps it knows more than Mama"

And then ....She is content 

الحمد لله رب العالمين

*power struggle in gaining leadership from your children but what can you do if you're up against GOOGLE?!

{percakapan} heavy weight

Once upon a time..

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as any mothers know, often it is very difficult to make the kids walk quickly home. They dragged themselves and one of my trick to make them walk faster is by telling them to compete (with one another) running from the main road into the house (dead end road)

I have to pretend to participate and let them win for the sake of it and as usual that day I came last and Nusaybah is the first and Rumaysa second. 

Nusaybah then commented:

"Mama, I know why you always came last.."

"Why?" I asked

"It's because I am the skinniest amongst you and Adek, so I'm very light, Rumaysa is lighter then you and you are the heaviest and the widest, I mean you have the largest size so it's too heavy for you to run!"

Ouch!!!

Again she made me laugh and I come to understand the saying: kids always tell the truth! (Unless they have been corrupted lol) 

"Aaah... Actually that makes sense Nusaybah" 

That's all I can say to her!

Tuesday, 13 October 2015

{percakapan} experts

This morning during breakfast 

Husband asked me to help him with something (can't remember go be exact) 

All of a sudden my older daughter asked 

Nusaybah:"mama, how can you be soo good at so many things?"

Me:"oh that's very nice of you Nusaybah, But am I? What make you think like that?"

Nusaybah:"it's because baba is always asking help from you, it's all because you are very good at so many things"

Awwwww *melt!!!* it did brought tears to my eyes and made my day and I was saying to myself that I can't and don't  want to forget this day!!!!

Allahu yubarik laha

I know for a fact I am faaaaar from knowing so many things but it's just feel good when your little child acknowledge you (whatever they think of) and express it! 
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The other day Nusaybah was with Rumaysa in the living room while I was
In the kitchen (cleaning up as usual 😬)

She then ran to me and brought 3 books (Arabic alphabets, Arabic numbers and toddler book) she told me

"Mama, I just finished teaching Adek (little sister) these three books so when she starts reception, she can be the top of the class!"

ماشاء الله 
Your thinking is well ahead, nak! 
I am the mother hasn't even thought about it! 😬😰

Sunday, 6 September 2015

[percakapan] a wife?

Once Upon the time when we were in the car as I was driving back from Nusaybah's swimming class, my girl Nusaybah who is five years old asked me

Nusaybah:" mama, what is "a wife" mean?"
Me:"Errmmmm... A wife is a woman who is married to a man, for example mama, I am baba's wife" because I am married to baba

Nusaybah:"oooo...so do I have to get married when i grown up?"

Me:"I would think so, what do you think?"

Nusaybah:"I will get married, but what happen if there is no men left?"

Me:* laughing*" what do you mean?"

Nusaybah:" what happen if all the men are married?"

Me:" what make you think like that?"

Nusaybah:"because when I looked around, I saw all the men are married"

Me:"how do you know Nusaybah?"

Nusaybah:"they walk with women or they hold their children hands"

Me: "but look at that man!(there was a man walking on his own), he is not with a woman nor a child"

Nusaybah:"well his wife maybe at home, mama"

Me:"ermm, you're right, but trust me, there are many men not married yet, but you don't want to marry those men, they will be very old by the time you're grown up"

Nusaybah:"so who can I marry mama?"

Me:"anyone at your age or slightly older or a little bit younger... Those uncles will
Be 80 or 90 years old by the time you're twenty"

Nusaybah:" so I can only marry a man like my age mama?, like my friend?"

Me:" yes... Maybe" at this point I am slightly worried with the way i answered her qs.

Nusaybah:" so if a man is already married, can I marry him, mama?"

Ops!.... I truly don't know what to say and how to say it!

I can't say yes (even though is halal to be second third or fourth wife) but I don't want to plant that idea at such a young age 

and I can't say no because that'll teach her something different from what Allah's ﷻ messenger has taught. 

I just say:" I prefer you marry someone whose not married yet and don't worry about it now, it's still a looong way to go, you need to study, learn a lot and memorise Quran and when you're twenty we can talk about it.

Then she didn't respond apart from smiling 

*phew...tough questions but again it made me learning new things*

Saturday, 5 September 2015

I miss you mom!

You were always there when I need you to share my thoughts and feeling

You never failed to lend me your ears when I needed someone to listen to

You gave me ease to just show all the feelings I had inside 

You would ask me questions after each stories I told, it just showed how much you cared 

You never doubt in my strength and ability to face anything in this life 

You never gave a chance for an empty and loneliness crept inside me hence you never ceased to call me each morning when I lived miles away from you 

Just a "hello" hi or Salam and knowing I was okay was enough to make you happy and cheerful

I didn't understand at that time why you did it
All I knew that you missed me, and you couldn't wait the day I went home and visited you

I was in my own world 
I was ignorant and practically blind

Blind on how much you have loved me
Blind on how much pain you went through to just let your youngest daughters live far apart from you when she was only 15 years old
Blind on how much sacrifice you did to send me to a good school so I can aim for the star and succeed in life 
Blind on how deep on you're missing me 
Blind on how hard you worked to support me financially, mentally and physically 

You tried everything!
You sent me to English, physics, Quran, math and any private tuitions you thought was necessary 
You would push me and boosted my confidence 
You told me that I had to work harder day in day out
You sent me to three different asatid to teach me Quran, Qira'ah and Islamic speech... After fajr, after asr and after Maghrib 
You managed to plant an extraordinary target I needed to achieve on each point of my study 

And with your dedication, support and du'a, I did managed to get it

You would wake up early morning to collect fresh vegetables from local Farmer and market to be sold around the village 

You opened beauty salon and taught me how to cut hair and blow dried when I was only 7 years old

You employed the neighbours to help you with your Krupuk business

You traveled to the city to secure a deal with contractor to sell roofs to them

You had your garment business and taught me how to attract customers and how to secure the deal

You nurtured my entrepreneurial  instinct from such a young age

It inspired me to look any opportunity anywhere and anytime to start buying and selling until my university years.

You never let me down
You would be sad when I was sad
You would be extremely happy when I was happy
You couldn't wait to hear all the stories from my long shifts in the hospital

You were always there

There to calm me down
There to comfort me
There to push me to achieve my dreams
There to remind me that succeed come from closeness to Allah ﷻ and hardwork

But when all the dream you have been built I finally achieved
You were not there anymore
I couldn't see your proud teary eyes
I couldn't hear your voice congratulated me
I couldn't to kiss your hands as a thankful
gesture
I couldn't give you hug 
I could not show the world how proud I am to have you as my MOM

A mom that despite being unable to  complete her primary school education due to poverty and financial difficulties,
yet managed to give me confident and belief that I am capable to be a doctor and that's always been your dream 

A mom who didn't know any words of English whatsoever and yet believe that I must be able to speak English and now I live in this English speaking countries

A mom who never felt ashamed to try any new business ventures as long as it could support her husband to send the children to a good school

A mom who lived simple but made her children felt having everything all the world could offer

A mom who never gave up on her dreams 
A mom whose love is unconditional 
A mom who was very strong and full of determination

Yes.... She was my mom! 

Even though you're not physically next to me now
And I can no longer put my head into your lap
I can no longer feel your touch
I can no longer hear your voice
But you're always in my heart, my thoughts and my du'a

By can I just say something???

Mom...I am truly deeply missing you tonight as I hold my children tight! 







Saturday, 15 August 2015

To my beloved father

He's the most patient person and strong soul I have ever known. He was the main carer for my mom when she was ill with multiple myeloma (blood plasm cancer) while I was 5 hours away (by car) from them due to university study that I had to do in another town. 

He cooked, cleaned, cared and fulfil every needs that my mom had. 

Never once, I heard him complained about the situation. He remained strong and persevered while I was crumbling down, what he did for his wife was extraordinary. The love he had for his wife can be seen even after 11 years she departed from him to meet her Lord!

It indeed reminded me the love the prophet Muhammad ﷺ to his wife: Khadija RA **

He's a very simple man, with not many words but his dedication, strength, patience, loyalty and love are inspirational and for sure ONE OF A KIND And I am proud to be his daughter.

May Allah ﷻ loves him and grants barakah to his life and may Allah ﷻ grans him health and happiness and may Allah ﷻ continues to give me opportunity to show my care and love even though I am miles away from him. Miss him dearly! 

~pic taken last Eid 2015~

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**After the death of Khadijah RA,the prophet Muhammad ﷺ still care and remember her close friends.

A Companion of the Prophet narrates that whenever any gift was brought to him ﷺ  he ﷺ would immediately send it to some lady who had been a friend of Khadija (ra). Ayesha (ra) says that whenever a goat was slaughtered the Prophet (saw)would send some meat to Khadija’s (ra) friends; when she remarked about this on one occasion he told her that he had great regard for her friends, as she had a special place in his heart. Ayshah RA said she never experienced such a feeling jealousy for any other wife of the Prophet (saw) as she did for Khadija RA. She RA also narrates that whenever prophet Muhammad ﷺ  spoke of her he would talk at great length and praise her qualities, and pray for her forgiveness.

Thursday, 30 July 2015

Kepo!!

Gara gara baca ada artis maudya Ayunda yang sefie sama PM Inggris, dan punya Instagram yang di ikuti 2,8 miliar orang, aku jadi Kepo siapa dia heheh
ماشاء الله 
ternyata dia memang mahasiswa Oxford University jurusan filosofi, politik dan ekonomi masuk tahun ketiga sekarang.

Dia sekolah SMA di BIS alias British International School dan seseorang dengan iMulti talenta.

Ujung2nya aku cari berapa biaya sekolah di BIS dan melongo aku dibuatnya 

Untuk siswa SMA, Setahunnya  setiap anak harus bayar lebih dari £15000 atau sekitar 318 juta!!!!!

سبحان الله 

Disini, sekolah milik negara alias state School gratis (tentu dengan segala kelebihan dan kekurangannya).

Banyak dari teman2 saya yang lebih memilih Home schooling karena berbagai alasan, salah satu teman dekat saya meyakini: pendidikan di Inggris banyak mengejar target Pemerintah (hasil dan nilai akademis
Saja) tanpa mempedulikan ada proses "nurture" anak2 dengan nilai2 mulia.

Wajar memang! Karena di sini negara sekuler, kalaulah diajarkan nilai,sekolah akan mengajarkan nilai kebebasan, HAM, homoseksual, s** education,dll. 

Bagi saya pribadi, sekolah adalah rumah kedua bagi anak anak saya, untuk usia yang masih muda seperti sekarang, penanaman nilai2 Islam, kecintaan kepada Allah ﷻ, Quran dan Islam adalah kunci utama untuk mereka tumbuh nantinya, Jadi khawatir juga ketika membayangkan Nusaybah akan diajarkan hal2 yang demikian. Walhasil kami memilih sekolah Islam yang ga gratis 

Namun jangan salah!
Banyak sekali ibu2 muslim di Inggris yang menyekolahkan anaknya di state school sadar akan "clash" dari nilai2 ini dan berani mengambil keputusan yang "melawan arus" dan harus menghadapi cercaan pertanyaan dari sekolah dan orang Tua lain dan mungkin anak2nya juga sendirian menghadapi tantangan ini di sekolah. 

Aku kagum dengan ibu2 ini ماشاء الله 
Meski hidup di Inggris, dimana sistem
Pendidikan mereka banyak menjadi anutan negara lain, mereka masih kritis dan masih tangguh memegang identitas keislaman mereka!

Tuesday, 23 June 2015

Ramadan reflection

This is beautiful & worth reading..

Very beneficial ...

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Many of us feel inadequate this Ramadan. Long hours of fasting with short nights makes it hard for those of us who are parents of young kids, or those of us working full time, or those of us who are unable to fast, "FEEL" Ramadan. We can't do the extra worship we used to and even when we get in our extra Qur'an or pray in the mosque we can't even concentrate, so we end up just feeling lame.

But what we really need is a perspective shift.

We need to recognize that taking care of the future generation, providing financial support for ourselves and loved ones or taking care of our health are some of the highest forms of worship in and of themselves. We just need to make the intention and internally shift our perspectives.

Give yourself 5 minutes, just you and Allah swt. Sit and raise your hands and share what's in your heart with Him in your own words, even though He is well aware of it. Allow the burden of your frustration with yourself to be lifted off your shoulders and into His Hands.

"Oh Allah , I feel distant from you and it hurts especially because it's Ramadan and I want to feel close to You in this month. Please, accept all my sacrifices for Your Sake and let me taste the sweetness of our relationship together through what I'm doing. As much as I wish I could be in the masjid and concentrate when reading Qur'an like I used to do to get that eman high, I can't. But I'm doing whatever I can to fulfill the responsibilities You've given me in this phase of my life. So please, write me amongst the highest in Paradise, pour barakah into my life and let me taste the sweetness of my relationship with You through what I'm doing."

Then, just keep renewing your intention. Remember, even the mundane (brushing your teeth) can be worship with your intention. And try to increase your dhikr just a little bit when you're walking to your car or washing the dishes or taking your meds or going to sleep.

The beauty of Islam is that it doesn't restrict worshipping God to praying, fasting and reading Qur'an. It can encompass your daily actions simply through your intention. 

As Abdullah ibn Mubarak said: "Perhaps a great deed is belittled by an intention. And perhaps a small deed, by a sincere intention, is made great." 

This Ramadan, make your worship something transformational. Choose to understand your relationship with Allah  as one which will continue even when your life changes. Choose to magnify your intention.

Monday, 22 June 2015

Quotes of Umar ibn khatab RA

Some of the best quotes by "Ameerul Mu'mineen" Umar ibnul Khattab (ra), the second Khalifah of Islam 

"Get used to a tough life, for luxury does not last forever"
— Umar ibnul Khattab (ra) 

"I have never regretted my silence. As for my speech I've regretted it many times" 
—Umar ibnul Khattab (ra) 

“Allah loves moderation and hates extravagance and excess.”Umar Ibn Khattab (ra)

"I thought of all types of wealth, but couldn't find a better wealth than contentment in a little"
— Umar ibnul Khattab (ra)

"Let not your love become attachment, nor your hate become destruction.”
—  Umar ibnul-khattab {ra}

“May God bless the man who says less and does more.”
—  ‘Umar ibnul Khattab (ra)

“Patience is the healthiest ingredient of our life.”
—  Umar Ibnul-Khattab (ra)

“Doing good for a good done to you is simply repayment, whereas doing good for an evil done to you is a tremendous virtue.”'Umar ibnul Khattab (ra)

Umar ibnul Khattab (ra) said: ”Invite people to Islam even without words” They asked ”How?” He replied ”With your manners.”

“I fear the day where disbelievers are proud of their falsehood and Muslims are shy of their faith.” Umar ibnul-Khattab (ra)

"The biggest gift after Iman (Faith) is your wives."
 — Umar ibnul Khattab (ra )

SubhanAllah
May Allah grant us taufeeq to implement Aameen

Ramadhan with Nusaybah

Yesterday was the first time my Nusaybah (5 years and 7 months) attempted to fast from lunch (1:30pm) till maghrib (9:24pm). 
she wasn't complaining ماشاء الله 
apart from the time she saw her little sister had dinner at 6pm! Lol

When ifthar time arrived, I could see the excitement and happiness, while we were sitting and made دعاء together on the dinner table, she kept asking:" can I eat now? Is it time for ifthar now?" For 5-6 times! 

I then reminded her the Hadith about the two happiness of those who fast
1. When they break their fast
2. When they meet Allah ﷻ due to the reward of their fasting

She eventually understood and stopped asking

Today, I asked her again if she wants to fast again, she said:" I don't think so mama, I will be sooo hungry like yesterday" lols

She then asked: "so how long are you going to fast mama?"

"29 or 30 days ان شاءٓ الله " I said

What makes me happy and touched the most is her next comment:

"I hope the Ramadan will be 30 days, mama.... So that the door of Jannah open longer and gate of jahannam close for longer as well, and shaitan will be chained for 1 more day" 

Allahumma bariklaha

Indeed...it reminded me a Hadith

عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ أَنَّهُ كَانَ يَقُولُ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَا مِنْ مَوْلُودٍ إِلَّا يُولَدُ عَلَى الْفِطْرَةِ فَأَبَوَاهُ يُهَوِّدَانِهِ وَيُنَصِّرَانِهِ وَيُمَجِّسَانِهِ كَمَا تُنْتَجُ الْبَهِيمَةُ بَهِيمَةً جَمْعَاءَ هَلْ تُحِسُّونَ فِيهَا مِنْ جَدْعَاءَ ثُمَّ يَقُولُ أَبُو هُرَيْرَةَ وَاقْرَءُوا إِنْ شِئْتُمْ فِطْرَةَ اللَّهِ الَّتِي فَطَرَ النَّاسَ عَلَيْهَا لَا تَبْدِيلَ لِخَلْقِ اللَّهِ

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “No one is born except upon FITRAH (instinct to worship Allah), then his parents turn him into a Jew or Christian or Magian......,,

Source: Sahih Bukhari 1292, Sahih Muslim 2658

Wednesday, 17 June 2015

Ramadan Mubarak

Marhaban Ya Ramadhan

May this Ramadhan become life changing moment for us

May Allah ﷻ showers His blessing and forgiveness in this blessed month

May Allah ﷻ writes our name to be one of those who are freed from the hellfire 

May Allah ﷻ accepts our Siyaam, Salawat, ad'iyaat, ruku', sujuud and every good deeds we do

May Allah ﷻ grants us the ultimate result: being Al muttaqun

May Allah ﷻ grants the victory to Islam and Muslims very soon

اللهمّ امين يا ربّ العالمين 

RAMADHAN MUBARAK 1436H - 2015

Yumna/ Yuni and family ❤️

Wednesday, 29 April 2015

Ugly habits

OK, so you aren't an awful husband. But there are some pretty awful things you definitely don't want creeping into your marriage. 

Your wife deserves better than a husband with any of these 10 ugly habits.

1. Critical

Please watch yourself and don't get caught in the trap of criticizing your wife. Choose to see the good in your wife. Compliment her on all the things she is doing right. Next time you find yourself wanting to tell her something you don't like about her, switch it around and pay her a sincere compliment. She will love it.

2. Controlling

Believe it or not, you aren't always right. And your beautiful wife is actually very good at making her own decisions (and typically she makes very good decisions). So stop feeling like you need to control where she's going, what she's doing, how much she's spending and more. Instead of stressing about that, work together as a team, encouraging and supporting each other. Let your wife be her own person, and give her wings to fly.


3. Treats you like an object

Please, husbands! Your wife isn't an object. She is your wife, your best friend and your queen. She deserves your utmost respect, especially when it comes to sexual intimacy. Always respect her and her body and work on establishing emotional connection and trust before thinking about sharing sexual intimacy with your wife. Sex can be the most unifying, fulfilling and beautiful thing in marriage when you both treat each other respectfully.

4. Doesn't give you the time of day

You have a wife. You lucky guy. Please don't forget about her. Don't be too busy to call her, text her or recognize her when she walks in the room. The next time you see her, give her a big hug and tell her you love her. Let her know she is your top priority by putting her first — ahead of work, time with your buddies, or watching that game. Sit on the couch and talk to her. Tell her about your day, your thoughts, your worries, and your funny experiences. Beware, you may find that sparks suddenly start flying around like crazy.

5. Uses crude or dirty language

Husbands, come on. You aren't teenage boys anymore (and even then, bad language wasn't really cool). Watch your mouth. Work to cut the swearing habit, and remove crude, rude and dirty language from your vocabulary. You may be amazed at all the other words available for use in expressing your feelings. Your wife deserves to hear words that a gentleman would speak, not a raga-muffin. Buy yourself a dictionary. OK, not really, but try some new words. Your wife will be tickled pink and others will think you're much more intelligent.

7. Has too high of expectations

The last thing your sweet wife needs to hear is that she doesn't measure up to your unrealistic expectations. Please don't compare your wife's body, budgeting skills, or parenting skills to so-and-so down the street. Your comparisons will, over time, crush her self-esteem. Decide to be kind, to be patient, to be forgiving and to be flexible. The more you emphasize all of her positive qualities, the more she will naturally start living up to those positive compliments and become the woman you describe, and more.

8. Doesn't help out around the house

Seriously? You may bring in half the income, or all of it, but that doesn't mean you can chill on the couch while your wife cleans, tidies and washes dishes day-in and day-out. Kick it up a notch and offer to help out. Clean the toilet (yes, the one you use every day), carry in the groceries or unload the dishwasher (oh, the horror). You and your wife are a team and ought to work side by side creating the home of your dreams.

9. Loses his temper often

You are a grown man. Yelling at your wife is not appropriate, effective or helpful. Hitting is completely off limits. Rage, lashing out, throwing things and threatening are all forms of abuse. You can learn to control your temper. You can learn to respond calmly and with love. As you do, your wife will feel safe with you and love being around you.

Monday, 27 April 2015

Dalam sepi

Dalamnya hati tiada yang bisa menduga
Luasnya samudra tiada yang mampu menjelajahinya
Demikian rasa yang aku indra
Sulit untuk ku ungkap dengan kata kata

Makna yang terucap 
tak sehebat dan tak sekuat 
Hasrat untuk kau bisa menangkap 

Meski aku sudah berupaya sekuat tenaga
Tetap saja aku hanya mampu diam seribu bahasa 
Karena aku sendiri pun tak tahu
Apa yang sebenarnya tersimpan jauh di lubuk hatiku 

Sedih senang
gundah gulana
Khawatir namun yakin

Bahwa aku bisa 
Bisa selalu tegak menyambut hari yang baru
Bisa untuk selalu melihat indahnya siang
Tenangnya malam
Bisa untuk merancang rencana ke depan 
Tanpa merasa takut atau ragu
Dan tentu tanpa merasa kesepian


Saturday, 25 April 2015

She loves me

She went to the back garden and picked up the flowers and presented it to me and said:
"Mama, I give you the flowers because I love you"

Awwwww
Allahu yubarik laha.

Some Other time she said:

"Mama, can I give you a biiiig hug?" 
"Of course, but Why?"I said

"Because I love you sooo much! I love you as much as water in the ocean.
I love you as much as the leaves fall from the tree 
I love you as much as the trees in the forest"

It melt my heart. ❤️❤️❤️

زُيِّنَ زُيِّنَ لِلنَّاسِ حُبُّ الشَّهَوَاتِ مِنَ النِّسَاء وَالْبَنِينَ وَالْقَنَاطِيرِ الْمُقَنطَرَةِ مِنَ الذَّهَبِ وَالْفِضَّةِ وَالْخَيْلِ الْمُسَوَّمَةِ وَالأَنْعَامِ وَالْحَرْثِ ذَلِكَ مَتَاعُ الْحَيَاةِ الدُّنْيَا وَاللّهُ عِندَهُ حُسْنُ الْمَآبِ {14 

Beautified for men is the love of things they covet; women, children, much of gold and silver (wealth), branded beautiful horses, cattle and well-tilled land. This is the pleasure of the present world's life; but Allah has the excellent return (Paradise with flowing rivers, etc.) with Him.
Surah Ali imran:14

Wednesday, 14 January 2015

Nusaybah and her advice!

Once upon a time....
I told Rumaysa to stop
Playing with the tap and water in the bathroom (she loves playing with the water) and she kept saying "noo mama.. Nooooo..." (Imagine drama scene)

Using a slightly elevated tone of voice, I told Rumaysa: "if you don't stop and don't listen to mama, I will send you to the thinking corner for 2 minutes!!!".

Well.... Theoritically (lol) I shouldn't address the issue using an elevated tone. I should have calm, cool, collected. Yeah!! One of those days.

And then came Nusaybah reminding and addressing me (using teacher type of tone- calm and low pitch)

"Mama, it's not nice to speak like that to your own child... You should not shout, you should speak nicely, Allah wont be happy with you... So now say sorry to Rumaysa.."

Mak nyessssss!!!! (Apa ya
Bahasa Inggrisnya??) 

It changed my mood instantly! I was so happy with the way she "handled" me and the situation. I smile at Nusaybah and follow her order... Apologising to Rumaysa. 

This was not the first time and Some other time I would argue and told Nusaybah that Rumaysa was the one who should listen to me for I am her mom but I realised the more I do that, the more I give example to Nusaybah that it's okay to talk back..

Sometimes, swallowing our own pride and anger is way more dignified then continue to argue and debate even to our little ones.

It's a big amaanah having children and we might think that we are the one who teach them but often they are the one who push us to learn and be more mature.

Allahu yubariklaha.