Wednesday, 26 November 2014

I knew I Loved you!

I posted this on my Facebook on November 16! And apparently the person I talked about on the following status knew that I talked about her 😉 and that i I dedicated the status for her! 

too sweet, init?? !!! And I was searching and searching the answer of this feeling and finally I got it. It gives me satisfaction and put my quest to rest.

You can read the answer at the end of this post

I was in the gathering and expected her to come  and turn up.

It's been a few weeks I haven't seen her but I deeply missed her. 

As soon as she walked in the room, I felt the warmth of her presence and I couldn't help not to smile although she didn't notice it. I can describe my happiness as if I meet an old friend for the first time after years of separation. 

We didn't exchange words, but once we catch up, the flow of our conversation can be endless.

I feel like she gets me. she's funny, intelligent, and very sensible. I value greatly her advice on many issues. I can rely on her judgement whenever I need a thorough assessment.

I enjoy her accompany and can't seem get enough.

I was searching and searching why I felt this way towards her. 

The only possible answer I can think of is because there is a deep sisterhood bond between us. 

It's love for the sake of Allah ﷻ 

On His path we met and on His path we bond.


The Prophet (sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam) said:"Allah (subhanahu wa ta`ala) said: 'Those who love one another for My glory, will have minbars of light, and the Prophets and martyrs will wish that they had the same."  [Reported by al-Tirmidhi, who said it is a hasan sahih hadith]

Have you noticed when you meet a particular brother or sister for the first time, you get along with them instantly. You agree on most things, you feel comfortable in their presence and most importantly you talk to them as if you have known them for years. You even express yourself in a way that would take you months or even years with other people. You don't hold back what you want to say and can express yourself freely in their presence.

After meeting them a few times you have a firm attachment to them and proudly proclaim them to be your brother or sister. The Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) described why this happens.

A'isha (radiallahu anha) narrated that the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said: “Souls are troops collected together and those who got along with one another (in the realm where souls existed before entering physical bodies in this world) will have an affinity with one another and get along (in this world)."

(Bukhari, 3158; Muslim, 2638)

So the brothers and sisters that you love and cherish in this world are with you for a reason. You were joined together before you were born and you exist in harmony together as brothers in this world as a result of that attachment.

Al-Khattabi states that people are attracted to those who are like them and people’s souls recognise one another according to their nature. If they are similar they will get along and if they are different they will not get along.

Finally this sums things up. Ibn Hibbaan narrated: "Ibn Abbas saw a man and said, ‘Indeed he loves me.’ His companions asked, ‘And how do you know?’ He said, ‘Because I love him and souls are like recruited soldiers, those that recognise one another unite in harmony and those that do not recognise one another are at an aversion.’

(Rawdah Al-Uqalaa, 1/108).

May Allah bless our brothers and sisters and may we all meet in the gardens of Jannah under the Shade of Allah.

Wednesday, 12 November 2014

Parenting programme

Resume program Kelas Pengasuhan Anak

Kenapa kita harus belajar ttg pengasuhan anak :
1. Àllah memerintahkan kita utk terus belajar
2. Zaman : zaman telah berubah. Dulu akses informasi terbatas. Skrg akses informasi tersebar luas
3. Agar anak bahagia

 Kenapa orang tua sering emosi menghadapi anak --krn ortu tidak punya ilmu

 Kenapa anak berperilaku buruk -- krn beda pola asuh

 Kenapa anak menjadi beban -- karena kita tidak bersama anak, kita hanya didekat anak. Ortu sibuk dengan gadget

PR utk ortu : 

1. PR ke-1 : InsyaAllah mulai hari ini sy bersungguh sungguh jadi ortu betulan, bukan kebetulan. Sy bersungguh sungguh memulainya dari hal yang sederhana yaitu menyediakan waktu bersama anak setiap hari, setidaknya 30 menit setiap sebelum 12 tahun dan 3 jam setidaknya setiap bulan setelahnya

2. PR ke-2 : InsyaAllah mulai hr ini, sy akan MEMBEBASKAN hidup anak sy demi kebahagiaan mereka sepanjang tidak berlebihan, yaitu :

Tidak membahayakan dirinya
Tidak merugikan orang lain
Tidak melanggar hukum agama, negara dan norma setempat

3. PR ke-3 : InsyaAllah mulai hr ini, Sy bersungguh sungguh sekuat tenaga utk MENDAMPINGI anak setiap hari jika bertemu dgn anak setidaknya pd 4 kegiatan, yaitu :

Bangun tidur
Mau tidur

4. PR ke-4: Sy akan mengutamakan KEBENARAN, bukan usia, utk membesarkan anak sy, dan pantang bagi sy membandingkan anak sy dgn saudaranya apalagi dengan org lain

5. PR ke-5: InsyaAllah mulai hr ini, sy tidak akan mengatakan kalimat negatif tentang anak saya didepan anak, sebaik apapun tujuannya. Saya tidak ridho konsep diri anak sy menjadi negatif gara-gara mulut sy yg tidak terjaga. 

💥Hati2 krn itu akan menjadi label. Kita melabeli anak kita nakal, maka ia menjadi nakal. Isi toples sesuai labelnya

6. PR ke-6: mulai hr ini sy akn bersungguh sungguh melakukan apa yg sy katakan kpd anak, mulai hr ini bersungguh sungguh tidak pernah berbohong dan ingkar janji pada anak sebaik apapun tujuannya. Sy tidak ridho anak2 sy tidak mempercayai sy orang tuanya

 Ortu tegas tp tidak kasar
 Ortu harus konsisten

7. PR ke-7 : mulai hr ini sy bersungguh sungguh, ketika anak sy berlebihan, sy akan sedikit bicara dan banyak bertindak. Yaitu dengan membuat batasan2 yg jelas dan kknsekuensi yg jelas. Ketika sy terpaksa menindak anak, sy sekuat tenaga melaksanakannya dan tidak mudah goyah oleh perlawanan anak berupa : tangisan, kemarahan, amukan, dan serangan kata-kata atau fisik. Sy tau tidak akan mudah, tp sy juga tau jika tidak melaksanakannya skrg, maka akan jadi kesulitan yg berkepanjangan

anak nangis minta sesuatu, cuekin aja
anak ngamuk, ortu tinggalkan tetap dalam pengawasan
ortu jgn lembek dgn segera memberi apa yg diminta anak

8. PR ke-8: mulai hari ini sy akan bersungguh sungguh sy akan mendekati anak sy pd saat berbuat baik lebih sering dr pada saat berbuat buruk dan setelah itu tidak akan jaga image untuk :
mengungkapkan perasaan positif yg kita rasakan
mendoakan anak sesekali yg sengaja terdengar anak
menceritakan kebaikan anak kepada orang lain 

9. PR ke-9 : Mulai hari ini sy bersungguh-sungguh sy akan melatih diri sy agar menjadi t4 curhat terbaik yg dipilih anak saya dengan mebiasakan diri :

mengajak anak bicara soal sepele sebelum yg serius
Mengajak anak berbicara pd saat tidak bermasalah sebelum yg bermaslah
Tidak akan pernah memasukan nasehat sebelum mengeluarkan isi pikiran dan perasaan anak -- berikan nasehat stlah anak colling down

Turning five!

Dedicated to my beautiful daughter Nusaybah Khalifa who is turning five today!

May Allah ﷻ guides and loves you 
May Allah ﷻ makes you pious servant of His 

اللهمّ امين يا ربّ العالمين 


Encircle your child with love
Offer your hand to guide her
Shower her with tenderness
Shelter away her fears

May she look for sunshine when
There seems to be clouds
May she take a step further to
Find the best in people and life

May she show kindness and patience
Towards others
May confidence and poise propel
Her in life

Teach her appreciation for small
Things in life
The abundance of nature close at
Her feet
Help her to learn the power of
Words spoken
The response to actions which
Might be awakened

Shower her with your love and
Your pride
Protect her as needed, but let
Her fly free
Free to stand tall with absolute

As she grows and discovers
Keep memories keen
For times in the future
When she flies free

Remember too as she grows to
Be a woman
She's a reflection of yourself
A reflection of the joy, kindness,
And dignity
A reflection of a woman set free
To pass down her teachings
From no other than thee.

Family Friend Poems 

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